Struggling with self-confidence? Try creating your own persona

Low self-confidence and limiting beliefs are barriers to achieving your goals. But they can be overcome.

Even when we are aware that we are holding ourselves back because we lack confidence, it can be difficult to transform our thinking in a meaningful way. Low self-confidence is a real barrier for many women when pursuing their goals.

If you suffer from self-doubt, you are not alone. Everyone struggles with insecurity from time to time. But if you are feeling like low self-confidence is holding you back from reaching for more, then it is time to make a change. You deserve to achieve everything that you aspire to, and it is possible.

There are many useful strategies you can practice to shift your thinking. Today I am sharing one of my favorites with you. This is to create a persona (“alter-ego”) for yourself, that embodies the person you want to become. For many people, this is the person you know you are on the inside, but you’re struggling to share with the world for fear of how you will be received.

The idea behind this approach is that by creating a persona that embodies the characteristics of the person you want to be, you are giving yourself some mental distance between your private insecurities, doubts and fears, and your aspirations. By taking your insecurities out of the equation and thinking about yourself as a character you want to play, you can transform the way you think, create, and behave. While this persona still needs to be authentic to you, it can help create the distance you need to forget your insecurities and focus on your strengths; on who you know you can be.

Performers often use this strategy to overcome stage fright or the overwhelm of fame. My favorite example of this strategy being used effectively is Beyoncé. In November 2008, Beyoncé appeared on The Oprah Show where she talked about her alter-ego, Sasha Fierce.

“Beyoncé says she crafted her stage persona to help her overcome challenges and give the best performances she can. ‘It’s kind of like doing a movie. When you put on the wig and put on the clothes, you walk different,’ she says. ‘It’s no different from anyone else. I feel like we all kind of have that thing that takes over.’ 

Sasha Fierce usually appears right before Beyoncé is about to take the stage. ‘Usually when I hear the chords, when I put on my stilettos. Like the moment right before when you’re nervous,’ she says. ‘Then Sasha Fierce appears, and my posture and the way I speak and everything is different.’

Your mind is your most powerful tool in creating the life that you want. You only have to get out of your own way to achieve your deepest desires. Beyoncé’s experience with Sasha Fierce is great proof of this. Over the years, as the pop star’s list of accomplishments and accolades grew, she presumably grew more comfortable with herself, and said goodbye to Sasha Fierce. 

In 2010 she said:

“The thing that’s interesting is I don’t need Sasha Fierce anymore, because I’ve grown, and I’m now able to merge the two. I want people to see me. I want people to see who I am.”

When you are consumed by doubt, worry and insecurity it can be difficult to take the bold steps necessary to achieve your goals. Because when you are too critical of yourself, you limit yourself from thinking and doing the big things that create real change in your life. Don’t let your self-doubt become your prison.

The first step on this new journey is to allow yourself to dream big. Don’t be afraid to create the person you know you are meant to become. Then take that big leap (or channel Beyoncé and step into that stiletto) and live your vision for your future self, even if you need to create your own Sasha Fierce to get started. When you live your vision long enough, it will become your reality. Once you have consistently pushed yourself beyond your comfort zone, you too will feel ready to retire your self-doubt and say goodbye to your “Sasha Fierce,” your insecurities, and your doubt.  

Hiring a Personal Brand Coach

Today’s post is all about what it’s like to work with me.

Think of me as your personal brand manager. I guide you through the work to clearly define your goals, help you to uncover your greatest strengths, and work with you to create a clear brand that aligns your image and behavior with your goals and talents. Then we get to work on communicating who you are (your brand) to the world.

As your image stylist…

I work with you to curate a memorable brand that showcases who you really are. I create look books for you and help you build a wardrobe that has you feeling strong and confident. We will talk through any beauty challenges you’re dealing with and put together a plan to address any negative body related issues you might be struggling with. I’m on call for quick check-ins and decision making which means that when you work with me, I will help you keep your image aligned with your brand; so that you can stay focused on achieving your goals.

As your personal communications manager…

I work with you to create your personal brand story. This is your personal narrative that clearly tells the world who you are, what you stand for, and what you’ve dedicated your time to achieving. I help you craft your story, and then coach you on the best way to deliver your message with impact. Based on your personal goals, I work with you to create a communications plan to make sure that you are sharing your story in the right way with the right audience. I help you overcome any communications challenges you might be struggling with so that you are prepared for those big moments of opportunity when you encounter them. I’m available when you need to practice a few talking points or when you’re stuck on how to position yourself in a big meeting. Think of me as your own personal publicist working hard for you in the background so that you can shine like the star you already are.

Finally, think of me as your personal business manager…

After all, what is a brand if not a business? Once we have your brand plan in place, I’m available to you via text, video or email to help you overcome any roadblocks you encounter throughout your day. Unsure how to navigate a challenging professional environment? I’m available to talk you through it. When you’re feeling unsure which outfit to wear for a big job interview, I’m here for you. If you’re feeling nervous about a big presentation and need to chat through some talking points or want a quick pep talk, I’m here for you. When you hire me as your personal brand manager – I give you my full support and attention – I am your personal stylist, your business manager and your publicist. I don’t just teach you the tools to help you succeed, I work hard along side you to help you achieve your most challenging goals.

When you choose to make an investment in my services, I’m also investing in you. I love hearing from my readers. If you’re curious about how I could help you achieve your goals, contact me for a complimentary call.

Why I think we have personal branding all wrong

Most of the conversations about personal branding today teach us to look at ourselves from an outside perspective looking in. By that I mean that women are being told to create their images and brands in response to society’s ideas of what we should be. The outcome of that is a personal branding movement that is teaching women to mold themselves in a way that meets society’s expectations of who they should be. To me, that is not personal branding.

Personal branding is an intentional exercise in which we look inward first to get a clear understanding of who we are, what we want to achieve, and why we want to achieve it. Nothing else matters unless we are clear on those things first. Once that work has taken place, we can use branding techniques such as our image, communications skills, behavior, and digital media, to share who we are with the world.

Personal branding should happen from the inside out. I believe that we are doing ourselves a disservice when we allow our own brands to be directed by our external environments.

My goal in creating this blog, is to share with other ambitious women my best advice for creating an authentic personal brand that is aligned with who you really are and your goals for the future.

This blog is not for everyone. But if you are still trying to figure it all out, I hope you will follow along with me as I share my own experiences, how I got where I am today, and my best advice for you as you create your own personal story of success.